When I Became My Father's Mother: A Daughter's Journey Through Dementia, Love, and Letting Go

What happens when the love of your life – your father – slowly forgets who you are, and you become the parent instead?

Winner of the Sahitya Ratna Samman Award 2026 (Best Non-Fiction Author Memoir Category), When I Became My Father’s Mother is a deeply personal memoir about a daughter caring for her fiercely independent, brilliant father as he moves through the long, disorienting passage of dementia.

It’s a story of who her father was, and who he became - and of what it feels like to walk beside someone you love as their memory, personality, and needs slowly change. The early chapters linger on his quirks, values, and presence so that, when his mind begins to falter, the loss feels as stark and intimate to the reader as it did to her.

As memory fades and responsibilities shift, she navigates exhaustion, guilt, unexpected tenderness, and the quiet, complicated beauty of showing up day after day. Set against the backdrop of an evolving relationship that is at once parent–child, caregiver–patient, and something beyond both, this memoir offers an intimate window into the emotional realities of caregiving, the courage it demands, and the grace it can reveal.

Honest and deeply relatable, When I Became My Father’s Mother is a companion for anyone who has loved, lost, or struggled to hold on — especially those walking the uneven path of caring for an ageing or ailing parent.

If you’re caring for a parent with dementia or age‑related memory loss and want a memoir that feels like a companion, this book is for you.

When I Became My Father’s Mother recently reached #2 on Amazon India’s Hot New Releases list of ebooks in True Accounts, reflecting how deeply this story is already resonating with early readers.
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